This seems like an unimaginable undertaking, but I found great comfort in planning a celebration that would capture the essence of Sean; a free-spirited, live-in-the-moment being.
We suddenly found ourselves climbing out of our grief to find the perfect venues - for calling hours (no ugly, old funeral home) and the reception (a place where his friends could celebrate in style fitting their age as well as a place for the 'grown-ups').
Our first stop was Eaton-Tubbs-Schepps. We opted out of the traditional prayer card and guest book and turned to our friends and colleagues to create something very special. The guest book was a leather bound album with customized cards where guests left memories and messages of comfort. Posters with images of Sean with friends and family with heartfelt messages taken from posts on The Life of Sean Samolis Facebook Fan Page (now up to 645 fans). Sean's friends created a music mix that was more suiting to Sean than Muzak. His cousin Clare and Meghan made tie-dye ribbons for people to take and wear.
Holy Cross Church and Father John Ahearn were wonderful and allowed us to do pretty much whatever we wanted. The entire mass was planned to be a tribute to Sean.. Again, his friends selected music, we selected readings, family members did the readings, cousins brought up the gifts (including Sean's leather jacket, concert ticket stubs, rugby ball, and dog sled racing medal). A neighbor, coach, and friend gave wonderful eulogies.
Then we partied at The Palace Theater. We had "the life of Sean" on the marquee and guests could have popcorn as they came in. The theater was for the 'kids' where they had a garage band and could just celebrate and remember Sean while images of Sean's life scrolled on the big screen. We served Sean's favorite foods (including a Mac N Cheese bar) and a big candy bar. We brought in Tie-dye linens and again had the look fit Sean's style.
We know Sean was with us that day and is watching over all of us as we reside in this earthly world missing him every single moment.
"The world was not meant for one so beautiful as you."
4 comments:
What amazing strength and courage you have as parents and what a special way to journey someone you love into heaven. I so would rather have an event than a funeral. God bless you
I was wondering if I would ever see The Last Hurrah take off. Honestly, the subject crossed my mind as I attended Sean's wake and was aware of the celebration you were planning..but I didn't dare make mention of it.
Now, how will the business cards read for this division???
Kel :)
Kevin - no parent expects to say goodbye to thier kids like this. What a classy way to create a wonderful memory of your son for both your family and all his friends. My prayers for peace are wth you and Nicole.
Bill Brod
Kevin this is an unexpectedly moving tribute to your beautiful boy. Thank you for allowing those of us who do not know you personally to join in the celebration of a life. Every kind wish to you and your family.
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